“LAW OF CAUSE AND EFFECT.”
When there is pain or sadness of past that are hard to be accepted because of its painfulness, we tend to be bound by the “law of cause and effect,” especially when we are bent on that the cause is outside, we tend to overlook an important thing.
In fact, there is no mistake in the law of cause and effect, but the cause exists neither outside (other people or circumstances) nor inside (personality or character).
The one of the cause is one’s own perspective – how to catch experience of oneself – and we have cultivated it by inherent character and living environment.
The fundamental we have to understand here is that the idea that it is good not to experience pain or sadness is the one of base for seeking a solution in the dual world, but no matter what inherent character or living environment, it’s the truth that no one can ever avoid pain or sadness in our life. Conversely, whether will be felt happiness rises in us as expected if there is not a pain or sadness? Moreover, we must remember the fact that the experience of pain or sadness, depending on a choice, can lead us to the self-realization, and so can be irreplaceable experience for us.
Without the recognition and acceptance of the fact that no one can ever avoid pain or sadness, we cannot accept and let go of our own pain and sadness of the past.
This unconscious denial makes us keep misunderstanding that the ego is ourselves, and also makes us trap in the past or the future without living in the present. However, our unconscious denial is not intentional, but because we ourselves do not realize that the unnaturalness has become natural to us because of little experience of natural acceptance of our thoughts or feelings.
What we need to do is not that we heal all the past, nor avoid negative feelings, nor work hard to cheer up when we’re depressed, but we just have to acknowledge and observe at the thoughts or feelings each time that appear and disappear in us as natural.
It may be scary to leave what we feel as it is, but the action of resisting it, on the contrary, gives the negative feelings power and stops the flow of disappearing naturally.
That’s the law of cause and effect.