If we can continue observe ourselves and stay living centered our hearts all the time, we don’t have time to criticize or complain about situations or someone, and to indulge in dramas such as we consider ourselves as victims of something or special.
It is simply because they are created only by the mind and moreover observing ourselves means that we are apart from identification of ourselves as the ego.
However, when we are overwhelmed by our own emotions, expectations, interpretations, or whatever, many people may try to escape into the delusion. It’s unconscious self-defense instinct, and has an aspect of what we won’t be hurt any further and no longer overwhelmed in a sense of self-responsible, if we do so.
But in fact, it’s time when we need more love and attention for ourselves at such times. Because it is when the inner love we need is depleted and we are feeling separated from our true nature.
In such time, many people look for love outside though, it’s, on the contrary, a clear sign when we need to listen to the innermost silence and to return to the connection with our true nature.
In other words, for instance, it means that when anyone complains about anything, it is that the person needs unconditional love, and if we find such the person, it is an opportunity that we express an offering of unconditional acceptance or gentle hug, as same as we give it for ourselves. And if we cannot do that, it’s an obvious sign that we need more love and attention for ourselves as well.
For instance, what we can give to others is like gentle hugs or acceptance, as unconditional love. When it is advice or admonition, it is only a gesture of goodwill, and actually expresses an unconscious rejection of it.
And self-love means such as to give ourselves a rest, to give extraordinary care for the body including gently hug ourselves, or take physical exercise to release energy when we noticed strong feelings and so on. 🙏🌌💗