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“HAPPINESS”

Some people say that helping others makes them happy, but we must not forget that if we feel happiness from helping others, it is due to a compensatory act and not because there is true happiness within us.

It is true that the loneliness experienced in the separation and isolation of the mind is very deep and painful for everyone, sometimes to the point of even taking a person’s life. At such times, the experience of having one’s existence acknowledged and accepted as it is may seem irreplaceable, and in fact, it may give one the strength to live. And the giver may even feel as if being able to contribute to others shows that he or she has value.

However, this is a temporary comfort for both parties rather than true happiness, and in fact, it can make both parties blind from the fact that there is much more profound world out there.

In fact, many people wander in this area.

Of course, helping others doesn’t need any judgment of bad or good, nor doesn’t it be that we shouldn’t do. But ‘happiness’ is a state of inner-contentment in heart, not something given from the outside, such as what one has done or what rewards one has received.

Even if there are times when you feel that you have been given happiness, it is only the moment when you assumed that your expectations you had before that are fulfilled, and in other words, it means that when your expectations are unsatisfied you will clearly feel unhappiness.
That means that you assume what you call happiness is something that can change depending on the external circumstances around you.

However, the expectation behind the behavior to obtain this happiness always has the possibility of being betrayed, since it needs to be fulfilled by the external. True happiness, on the other hand, has nothing to expect from the external, so the possibility of betrayal is nowhere to be found.

Therefore, if you have been getting happiness by helping others, you must first discover each of these things through daily self-observation, such as your feelings and thought patterns, before you can help others. If you can observe each of these things without judgment, the contradictions and distortions in them will naturally become apparent, and your actions will spontaneously change as a result of this apparent awareness.

Then, you must stop seeking external sources to make you happy or to fulfill your expectations, and search deep within to find out what true happiness is, that is, a state in which your heart is full even after you have let go of everything.

By searching for true happiness within, kindness to others will gradually lose its power to please the ego as a mere performance, and even more, you will also cease to be a good person controlled by reason, and will come to settle into your original natural state, where inside and outside are in harmony.

In this way, as you leave the mind and the heart becomes more open, you all will be able to reach true happiness within.

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It is important to stop the unconscious compensatory action to fill the emptiness within and find out where that emptiness comes from.

And it is even more important to recognize the compensatory action that we are doing by ourselves.

And moreover, for this, it is most important to make mindfulness a habit.

Know thyself. 🌈🙏✨

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