The thing important above all is that you need to truly love and forgive yourself.
Only when you keep satisfying yourself, your soul need and desire, you can be a giver of the true love of the soul level for the earth.
The truth is that there is no one except yourself in this world, despite of separation which most of you experience.
All realities are fantasies you created for awakening who you really are.
That’s why the thought you should become someone else does not make sense.